Question by Dae9: Husband put’s his family before me and our kids?
My husband is constantly putting his mother and his sister and cousin’s before me and his children. He spent most of Christmas Eve with them and brought in Christmas with them while the kids and I stayed home. He keeps this family and his other family separated. He knows that I according to God’s word am supposed to be first in his life as his wife. His reply to that is “Oh well, that’s my family and as long as my mother is alive that’s the way it is going to be”. He has even tatoo’d his mother’s name on his arm. He wants the benefit’s of a wife but does not put any effort into the marriage. I pay most of the bills, I make his breakfast every morning before he goes to work, I wash his clothes and even pays his truck note. Most of his money stays in his pocket because he knows that even if he does not give me any money that I will not let the bills go lacking because of the children. I am looking for Christian counseling and advice on this. Whay do I do??
It is HIS choice to keep me away from his family. Not mine. He does not see me every day all day long because he works alot. The only real time we get to spend is on the weekends which he chooses to spend with his mother and sister’s or other family. Because he works alot the time that he does get off he tries to see them instead of spending that off time with me and the kids. All of the children are not his mother’s grandchildren so that is why she does not care if she sees them or not. My children that are her grandchildren go to her house on their own.