Eight Years Married,No Kids Husband Doesnt Want Them..is Divorce the Answer?

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8 years married,no kids,is divorce the solution?Help please!:(?
We ve been married for 8 years now,and before we got married we knew each other for 4 years.Our relationship started as long distance,thru phone calls,emails,mails… i left my life in my country & married him.I come from a home of verbal& physical abuse,my parents were never there for me…today im 28 he’s 43,.. when i came we got married and he was/is my best friend…our love grew with time,he respects me and showed in his own way he loves me( hes not romantic nor talkative)
He always respected me and treated me really well.Financialy speaking we are fine,most of the income comes from my job.
In all these years we’ve been married im always the one bringing the topic “kids” up,he’s never interested and always change the subject..he told me he’s affraid of becoming a parent,that we need more room(we leave in a small apartment) & we need more money…he promessed me he’d look for counsling on family planing but he never did,he keeps putting off…we did consuling and very little effect… i love him with all my heart and he knows how important to me it is to have a family…he asked me to wait 2 more years to “improve” our situation and its been 1 year & 6 months now and he didn’t improve,WE didn’t improve;im afraid the time will pass and we wont have our baby…it seems to me like im the only one wanting kids :( .I told him i want the divorce,he says it doesnt have to be this way,2 years ago we had the same discussion i even filed for divorce but i dropped it bc i wanted to give us a chance…i love him and i dont want to leave,but at the same time i feel so bad knowing im giving up my dream to have a family w him. i dont know what to do
I do belive the age difference plays a big part in our relationship,but id say all these years i’ve learned a lot with him;and yes i did tell him my desire of having kids,we would even choose names…eventualy he stopped talking about it…in fact after we married he never even broght it up…
6 years ago i had a miscarrige ,he knew about it and didnt give me any emotional support,i went to the doctor’s all bymyself it was really depressing =[ right after that we did thet marrige counsling but didnt help as much as i expected… i want my pregnancy to be mutual decision i dont want to trap him,i want my baby,our baby to feel wanted… =[
left out BIG PART of details of my personal life,i wanted to be objective and go straight to the point.I did seek help,i had therapy sessions,took zoloft & lexapro for 4 years, i got healthier habits,i went to college… i helped my husband thru many tought situations… id say yes i needed help and i got it( thanks to my husband that supported me) but whats wrong with wanting a family? i dont want things to be “my way” im not that kind person….

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Answer by Happy-2
Here’s your problem right here: ‘In all these years we’ve been married im always the one bringing the topic “kids” up,he’s never interested.’

This is something you should have discussed BEFORE marriage.

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